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53Want a couple who already know how to share. I like being in the middle, her mouth on me while he fucks me. Slow first drink though.
Essex members cover the whole county — Colchester, Harlow, Chelmsford, Southend, Basildon and Romford are all well represented. Here's what our Essex membership actually looks like.
40
Across every profile listed in Essex
Members who completed optional ID verification
Profiles with at least one photo uploaded
42
20 female · 13 male · 9 couples
From Colchester couples after their first threesome to Southend locals who've been part of the scene for years — a sample of verified profiles below, and it's free to look once you've signed in.

Want a couple who already know how to share. I like being in the middle, her mouth on me while he fucks me. Slow first drink though.

Gym, work, repeat. Something that doesn't come with homework. Flirty chat is fine. Planning a wedding is not. Can do hotels. I want to fuck with the lights on and no performance.

Not unicorn hunting in the rude way. We move slow, we share photos after a real chat, we don't pester.

Kids half the week. When I have a free night I don't want dinner theatre. I want to get out of my head. Be tested. Weeknights easier than weekends.

Since I'm only here for the weekend just looking for hook ups. Come to my hotel room. Weeknights easier than weekends.

Curious about bondage that stays playful. Ties, a blindfold, then normal tea after. No creeps.

We have played once and want it again. Better communication this time. She writes most of the messages.

Younger men welcome if you actually like women my age. Direct in messages. Don't waste the night.

Been the third for couples. I don't push past what she is comfortable with. Husband in the room or in the loop. Weeknights easier than weekends.

Married, open on my side with his knowledge. Hotel or my place when he's away. Keep names off socials. Based near Chelmsford.

Full swap with the right couple. Same room. No disappearing into another flat. Based near Southend.

I'm inexperienced and hoping that I'll be able to improve and empty my balls. Essex only unless we already click. I want to fuck with the lights on and no performance.

Nights and weekends I'm alive. Days I'm dead. Last minute Saturday yes works. Constant messaging does not.

BUSY WEEK. WANT SOMEONE WHO CAN KEEP UP. IF UR FUN AND CLEAN SAY HI Can do hotels. I want to be fucked properly, not just messaged.

Open to try go into my kink side more don't really care Based near Harlow.

We like a third who can take a cock and still pay attention to her. Hotel works. Our place if we trust you.

Open to a regular FWB who likes swinging nights as well. I don't need a label. I need follow through. Based near Romford.

i dont write essays. if ur nearby and keen say something interesting Can do hotels.

I'm fun, fit, flirty and I love to F. Love meeting like minded types who are keen to play up. Essex only unless we already click.

House in the suburbs, blinds that actually close. Looking for ongoing, not a one-off circus. Based near Chelmsford.

Slapping my cheeks, and I'll slap yours harder……….. I want to be fucked properly, not just messaged.

kinda shy in person till im not. looking for someone patient and filthy in equal measure I want to fuck with the lights on and no performance.

Shift worker. When I clock off I want someone who will eat me out like they mean it and not ask to stay the week.

Bad at spelling sorry. Woman who likes it a bit rough then a cuppa after. I can host. No drama.

I want my hair pulled and my name used. Soft in the kitchen, filthy in the hallway. Local only.

Open marriage, we have rules. No solo meets unless both agree. Prefer another couple around our age. Weeknights easier than weekends.

Sorry my spelling is rubbish I type fast. Looking for casul fun. Dont need heaps of people just one who shows up. Essex only unless we already click.

Trustworthy sincerity understanding of situations

I'm 29 years old, living in the Essex region. I'm interested in meeting a man aged between 23 and 44. Can do hotels.

COUPLE LOOKING FOR A THIRD. SHE IS BI HE IS STRAIGHT. BE RESPECTFUL Weeknights easier than weekends.

Happy to be used by a couple. She directs, I listen. Soft swap first if that's your rule. Based near Billericay. I want to fuck with the lights on and no performance.

Yeah so I overshare and I get bored of apps pretending they're not hookup apps. Starting casual is easier.

I'm more of an introvert people say with my very nasty secret desires

Trades, early starts. Not looking to move in. A regular no-stress thing. I can host most weeknights after 7. Essex only unless we already click.

Looking for a man to join. MMF. She wants to watch and take part. First meet clothed and public.

Been the third before. She has to want me there, not just tolerate it. Happy to kiss her first and see.

Latex, anal, oral sex, shibari, bondage, slap, role, Weeknights easier than weekends.

I like a man who can take instruction. Control, pacing, being used properly. If you message hey with nothing else I will not reply.

He likes watching her get fucked. She likes being shown off. We talk limits before anyone gets naked. Essex only unless we already click.

Not interested in being anyone's secret if you're going to panic after. If you can host and keep it discreet, talk to me. Essex only unless we already click. I want to be fucked properly, not just messaged.

Can host. Clean sheets, blinds down, no photos of my place on your phone. That's the deal. Can do hotels.

This box is awkward. Dress me up, take me out, then ruin the outfit. Must be able to laugh when plans go sideways. Essex only unless we already click.
Essex is big enough that no single town covers it — the profiles above pull from Colchester, Harlow, Chelmsford, Southend, Basildon, Romford and Brentwood, and they're a working sample, not the whole membership, just enough to show you it's real. Discreet meets top the list of what Essex members are into at 42%, ahead of threesomes (34%), swinging (29%) and MMF (28%).
Most connections here start online and move to a private house or hotel once there's real chemistry, with members happy to cross the county for the right match — Colchester to Southend is a genuine drive, not a short hop, and bios reflect that. Essex dogging and dogging in essex both come up often enough in searches that it's worth a direct answer: outdoor meets carry real legal risk, so read our Dogging Rules & Etiquette guide first rather than guessing.
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